The Cultivate Wins Team invited an expert on Mental Health, Awareness & Mindfulness Practices and had a very fruitful and amazing one hour session with Nicole Hudson.
Here is a replay to the conversation we had: https://youtu.be/WcSv6A8XT7c
First thoughts: How do we look at where we are now and where we want to go, we get bogged down by what happened to us that we fail to see where we are at right now... it makes it harder to see where we want to go. WHERE WE ARE NOW.
Keyword is awareness - how do we cultivate awareness of where we are.
"Cultivating" is empowering
We sit in a cultivating mind always
Mindfulness practice is one of the core modules
What are your values right now, it changes in time
It's okay to not know at first, we've never been at that exact moment before.
Once we get to step in to that then that becomes a snowball.
When we start to open that pandora's box, it's continuous
We start to see the behaviors and patterns
What tools, style, prompts, etc.., are effective?
DBT: Dialectical Behavior Training - Skills Training
Zen Mindfulness, middle path and awareness
Evidence based therapy
Skills based is simple but not easy - its not rocket science
Yoga philosophy
We have this internal wisdoms that we start to forget, let's cultivate awareness around these skills to be aware that we are already doing it or know it -- then you can strengthen that.
It's choice rather than habitual action
Awareness of the win --> what was the process of the win --> is that a duplicatable win?
See everything as a learnable skill
Learning the language and the concept
Unlearn and re-learn: when we start to reset we can re-wire
Cultivating the awareness
Being curious as to what that awareness is bringing you
What is this awareness doing for me - there lies the transformation
The language and vocabulary affects how people get it
Accessibility - what is the doorway in which we want to enter into this
It depends on who we talk to, knowing who your audience are
Same concept but packaged very differently, changing the language a bit makes it accessible
I don't care what doorway they use as long as they enter the doorway
If they are experience interpersonal defectiveness/relationship, anxiety, etc.
We don't have to know it all, we just have to know what works for us.
Do not start from a point of guilt that we don't practice self-care, don't pile and add the guilt.
This is a practice, there is no perfection: We practice we learn and then life happens
There is always more to come, we don't know what's next or what's to come but there is always more
We can begin again every single day
CHECKING IN WITH YOURSELF
Skill to practice: If you notice that negative self talk, ask yourself would you say that to your friend?
We are wired to the negative, we do need to be alert and aware
Pull yourselves back
We can continue to grow into one skill but grant yourself some grace. We will screw up form time to time.
CONCEPT OF KULA
Concept of community, when you can't use your skill who can you call upon when shit hits the pan?
You are not doing this alone, it's okay to ask for help
You'll feel stronger to do those in
To be aware when we are choosing to isolate is huge
(2) MINDFUL DISCTRACTION
It's about finding what works for them, so they'll know what to draw from when you are starting to 'spiral'
Noticing what is affective: skill of self-awareness
Choice vs. when we are being mindful
Some mindful distraction can be turn your favorite TV show to focus on that
Getting outside or taking a walk
A moment to take our mind off of things
Being able to know when to ask for help
When we cultivate awareness we look at tough things and realize we need to be willing to change
Awareness helps us look at different perspective
Awareness is also about accountability
We can only change and shift how we interact.
We are all in a different space --
So much of psychology is about yoga philosophy Inspire others to empower themselves
So people can grow and move and shift in their own ways
We gotta start somewhere
Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction
Emotion Focused Therapy
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
What spectrum are you in your mental health?
What's normal?
There is a normal range which human beings can exist
If so much distress inhibits or causes them to function in their day to day lives.
It is no longer in their 'normal range'
Its not about harder or easier
It comes back to awareness: I am no longer functioning within my range and what I should do about it to come back to my longer range.
Do you want advice? or do you just want me to listen?
ASK: What do you need right now?
Be realistic on your boundaries and what are you comfortable of offering - being honest and aware.
"I do not feel equipped to help you with this"
Do you have the capacity to hold space for someone else right now?
Through practice: We can better respond with each other.
Nicole shared a whole host of links for resources:
WanderFreely Retreat Info:
March 19-25, 2023
Puerto Viejo, Costa Rica
https://www.wanderfreely.com/wanderfreely-retreatsandworkshops/costa-rica-2023
WanderFreely Coaching Info:
https://www.wanderfreely.com/life-coaching-empowerment
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